In a society where we have been force-fed heterosexuality. Everything from literally every kind of media to government policies prioritized and push for a norm that (for most of us, especially queer and trans people) doesn't align with who we truly know ourselves to be.  

It's no surprise then, that so many people feel shamed about how they pleasure their own bodies or how they want to experience pleasure with another person. 

Which lead us to... the grind. *eyebrows, eyebrows* 

There is a wide variety of ways people came to learn to masturbate, from the classic humping of the favorite stuffed animal/pillow to leaning a little too intently on the washing machine. For many of us grinding is the way to our hearts, and by hearts we mean enrapturing gender and sexuality affirming orgasams! 

Ultimately, as long as you're not harming yourself or others, there is no wrong way to experience pleasure. 

So with out further ado, here’s our top 5 picks for grinding toys! (in no particular order)

✦ 1.The Vibepad ✦ 

vibepad

 The Vibepad is a silky smooth, flexible, remote controlled, dual motor toy perfect for folks who prefer to ride. It's unique shape is designed for all bbs, regardless of your anatomy! The wide flat flexible shape makes it perfect for propping up on pillows or any other furniture you may have so you can get your angle juuuust right. 

✦ 2. Cute Little Fuckers - Starsi ✦

Starsi makes a great vibrator for all surfaces, from genitals to chests, between and beyond. The curves on Starsi's back make an ideal grip, easily palmed in your hand. Transfemme vibrator seekers with genital dysphoria tend to enjoy Starsi for Starsi's ability to cover genitalia with a gently curved vulva-like feel, allowing us to map new genitalia and euphoria in our own mind. You don't have to be transfemme to discover Starsi's pleasures though.

✦ 3. BumpHer ✦

Perfect for strap wearers who also want a lil extra sensation. A soft supple silicone sleeve that stretches to fit over the base of a favorite strap-on dildo. The unique double-bump design of plump protruding nubs will rub in all the right places during harness play either with a partner or use solo. Pleasure and padding that feels so good! Soft where needed, firm where wanted. Fits dildo bases from 1”- 3 1/4”.

✦ 4. Rocks Off Ruby Glow Blush ✦

We haven't seen a toy quite like this one! This super versatile toy doubles as an vibrating grinding toy when clipped into it's base AND can transform into a hand held vibe that is perfectly curved to hit your G-spot! 

✦ 5. Romp Wave Mint ✦

 

Silky and flexible, Romp Wave is a great low profile option for those who want something more subtle for their hump and grind. Plus the tip is perfect for pointed clitoral stimulation!